Sex isn’t what it used to be. Or at least our thinking about it isn’t. That’s a very good thing. The 21st century has ushered in more expansive notions of sex, sexuality, and relationships, from a total lack of interest that is totally normal, to a healthy and consensual interest in non-monogamy – and much more. Here’s a collection of articles on these topics. Collections on other topics relevant to single life are here.
Some basics about what’s “normal”
What counts as normal?
Sex drive? There’s no such thing
Asexuality and aromanticism
Compulsory no more: Heterosexuality, sexuality, romance, and coupling
ASEXUALS: Who are they and why are they important?
Asexuality is a sexual orientation, not a sexual dysfunction
Biased against asexuals? Let me count the ways
Asexuality in history, popular culture, psychiatry, and everyday life
So long, compulsory sexuality! See ya, Viagra! Asexuality is here
For asexuals, gays, and lesbians, adolescent romance is especially depressing
That’s so aromantic!
People who are aromantic: Are they targets of bigotry?
Are monogamous relationships really better?
Satisfied? Jealous? On deciding not to be monogamous
Is polyamory bad for the children?
7 kinds of marriage – and 1 awesome alternative
Keeping marriage alive with affairs, asexuality, polyamory, and living apart
The proliferation of life choices and the resistance that follows
The single person’s secret to a fulfilling life (agentically single, by Kristen Bernhardt)
Elizabeth Brake on minimizing marriage and amatonormativity
Romantic relationship virgins: There’s been too much shame around this topic
Social scientists discover that single gays and lesbians exist
The truth about infidelity: How often romantic partners cheat on each other
Teen dating and sex hit record lows for recent decades
7 reasons why young people are having less sex
Teens Who Don’t Date: Socially Behind or Socially Skilled?
Dark adolescent romance
Pining for romance? Young adults who aren’t are doing better
What you miss by doing what everyone else does
PT blogger answers my questions about sex, single parenting, Steve Pinker, and stupidity
60 sex-relevant terms you may not know – and why you should