Relationships, love, family – these are all concepts that should be far-reaching and open-armed. Instead, they have been squeezed into narrow, stifling boxes. ‘Relationship’ is too often a shorthand for romantic relationship – what a shame! Same for love. ‘Family,’ too, has such great potential.

Here are some writings that honor all the important people in our lives and the many ways we can love someone.


Bigger, broader meanings of love and romance

Love used to mean so much more than it does now

Why don’t we give love its due?

Who wrote the book of love? Happy single people


Romantic relationships are the white males of relationships

Against amatonormativity: Romantic relationships should not be valued above all others

The meaning of ‘relationship’: Notes from a party

Romantic relationship virgins: There’s been too much shame around this topic

7 ways romantic partners are losing their special place, and how we can recognize all the important people in our lives

Does sex really matter?

The ‘single-at-heart”: Beacons of innovation in a blandly married world?

Finding “The One” is overrated: Emotionships matter more

That’s so aromantic!

Why is there shame around being a ‘relationship virgin’? I’d be proud to be one.

If you aren’t in a relationship, who is ‘your person’?


Why friendship is the key relationship of the 21st century

What are friends for? Views from single and married life

Step away from that spouse!

Bromance over romance, say men in new study

How to value our friends and everyone else’s


Families of choice are remaking America

If you are single with no kids, who is your family?

The many faces of family and love: There is no best one

Who counts as family and why should (only) family count?

Not going nuclear: So many ways to live and love

‘Single motherhood’ and the bigger, broader meanings of family and love

Bella Depaulo New Book How We Live Now

How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century

Single, no children: Who is your family?

Single parents and their children: The good news no one ever tells you