Bella Depaulo The Best of Single Life

As if all of those singles-bashing “why are you still single” lists are not bad enough, there’s more. I just learned that there is a traveling road show addressing the question, “Why is everyone still single” – as if that’s a bad thing.

I have been writing about that attitude for years, starting with Singled Out. Below is a collection of links. In the first set, I take on all of those awful lists, mock other articles written in the same spirit as those singlist pieces, and point to some of the somewhat better approaches. In the second set, I highlight positive, affirming reasons for embracing single life. You can also check out my TEDx talk, “What no one ever told you about people who are single,” as well as the book, The Best of Single Life

I. About those “Why You Are Single” Lists

“Why are you still single?” Here’s the best way to answer

The last ‘why are you single’ list you will ever need

No, I’m not married. Why do you ask? (with Joan DelFattore)

About those 27 wrong reasons you are single

‘Why are you single’ meets ‘why are you married’

“So sorry you’re still married”: New anniversary card greeting?

“So why have you never been married?” A case study in accidental singlism

It just hasn’t happened yet?

Why remarry? The best and worst answers and the set-up in the question

CNN: ‘Still single? What’s the matter with you?’

Top 8 reasons not to marry

Doomed to be married? 5 reasons wise people worry

II. Now let’s talk about some real, positive reasons for being single

The Best of Single Life

Why some people just love being single

17 things no one ever told you about people who are single

What makes single people happy?

The good reasons why some people are happy being single

More people than ever before are single – and that’s a good thing

What single women really want

The deep rewards of a deeply single life

Fear not: the advantages of people unafraid to be single

If you’ve been single all your life, you have a lot to be proud of

Singles value freedom more and get more happiness out of it

How to be happily single for life

Yes, we really do want lifelong singlehood

Unfathomable even to brilliant, kind, and open minds: The securely single

Single life as a ‘satisfying choice and a profound threat’

People just don’t know how to be single?

Dilbert creator discovers single life and writes new rules

I’m better off single. You might be, too.

How many people choose to be single?

More than sex: 11 meaningful facts about single people

How to become your true self

Single in America: 6 cutting edge perspectives, 2 others

Single at heart: What do we know about it?

III. Marriage researchers: On the case for decades, but still not getting it about why some people don’t marry

A half-century of fewer people marrying: what explains it?

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