The assumption that if you get married, you will get healthier is so much a part of our conventional wisdom that it is rarely challenged. Back when I was just practicing single life and not studying it, I had no idea that the supposed truism was actually a myth. I figured that out fast, though, once I started going to the original research reports and scrutinizing them. I drew from what I had learned from decades of doing research and teaching graduate courses in research methods, but some of the mental errors in the claims about the research are so egregious that you should not need any formal training to realize how ridiculous they are.

My first comprehensive debunking of the claims about getting married and getting healthy were published in the second chapter of Singled Out. There I describe what is wrong with the research behind those claims, and take a close look at some examples of different kinds of research.

I’ve kept it up ever since. Whenever a new study about getting married and supposedly getting healthier hits the news, I hit the books. I look up the original study, and see what it actually says. Below are my discussions and critiques, organized into three sections: I. Physical Health, II. Mental Health, and III. Also Relevant.


Overall Physical Health

Get married, get healthy? Maybe not. (my op-ed in the New York Times)

Why we thought marriage made us healthier, and why we were wrong (NBC News, THINK)

Health benefits unlikely even from the longest marriages

American marriages: Happiness and health decline over time

Why divorced people are key to understanding marriage

Everything you think you know about single people is wrong

Marriage: How we got it so wrong for so long

The case for marriage is a sham

Singles are ‘catching up’ in health, but who is really in the lead?

Women who stay single or get divorced are the healthiest

Older women with no kids have better health and more wealth

Is good marriage good for your health?

Is it better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?

Marriage and health: Eh tu, New York Times?

TIME magazine peddles pro-marriage ideology under the guise of science

Newsweek’s turn to post misleading account of latest marriage study

USA Today’s big new story on marriage peddles same old fallacies

Marriage and genes: Their claims, my qualms

Is it healthier to live with someone?

Serving up same old myths about marriage, with a side of condescension

Does marriage civilize men?

The health hazards of having been married

Weight, Exercise, Food

Latest claim: Getting married makes you fatter because you are having so much fun

Men, women, single, married: Who really exercises more?

Snacking on single people — such yummy stereotypes!

Blood Pressure, Stroke, Heart Health

Single men have good hearts

Get married, get heart disease: Study of 3.5 million adults

Avoid stroke by marrying? A case study in misrepresentation of marriage findings

Are singles doomed to high blood pressure? Only if they read media reports of the latest study

What you know about marriage that the New York Times does not


If you get married, will you sleep better?

Alzheimer’s, Epilepsy

Here are the details of that delirious Alzheimer’s study

Is marriage a special kind of social support?


Will marriage save you from dying of cancer?

They survived cancer, only to get bashed by singlism


Overall Mental Health

Singles and mental health (chapter by Bella Depaulo)

No partner, no worries: New study of psychological health (loneliness, depression, and stress)

The fragile spouse and the resilient single person

Emotional Health

Times reporter thinks single women fear intimacy; I’m afraid he’s wrong

Latest study: Single people do not have attachment problems (Part I)

No attachment issues among single people (Part II): How to make even good findings sound bad

Being coupled ain’t all it’s cracked up to be

Depression, Suicide

Will you be less depressed if you get married? 2 studies

Really? Marriage reduces depression?

Do women become more depressed over the course of their romantic relationships?

Study: Got married younger than you had hoped? That’s depressing

Is marriage toxic to women? No, misleading reporting is

Shame on you, APA!

What matters is whether you matter to others

Suicide fact-check: What does marital status have to do with it?

People who stay single are no more likely than married people to die by suicide

Psychopaths, Antisocial Behavior

Actual newspaper headline: ‘Married men better men’

Naughty or nice? Single men and married men


Cracking the code: How to think critically about the alleged superiority of married people

The crisis in squishy science and trouble for journalists

Who are you going to believe – the National Marriage Project or your plants?

David Brooks + Sandra Bullock = Matrimania

On tax breaks, emotional commitments, and the myth of the transformative power of marriage

Marriage wars: The real fight is over moral superiority

The publication of ‘The Case for Marriage’ kicked up an ideological storm

Men and women who have always been single are doing fine

Bella Depaulo Marriage Vs Single Life

Marriage vs. Single Life: How Science and the Media Got It So Wrong