Singles Research and Writing

Singles Blogging

Living Single” blog at Psychology Today

Single at Heart” blog at Psych Central

All Things Single (and More)” here on this website

Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After

In Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After(St. Martin’s Press), Dr. Bella DePaulo clearly and compellingly debunks the myths about people who are single, using scientific research, examples drawn from popular culture, and healthy amounts of humor. Immensely readable, Singled Out is also carefully and fairly argued. Singled Out is a spirited and provocative read for all people curious as to why singlism is practiced and how it has gone unrecognized and unchallenged for so long.

Bella DePaulo Singled Out book cover

Order Singled Out In paperback, here.
Kindle version here.

Singlism: What It Is, Why It Matters, and How to Stop It

The widespread stereotyping and discrimination against people who are single has long gone unrecognized, unnamed, and unchallenged. Dr. Bella DePaulo calls it SINGLISM. In this collection, she defines singlism and shows where it is lurking in the workplace, the marketplace, the media, in religion, in pseudoscience, in laws and policies, and in our everyday lives. She provides some insight into why singlism persists at a time when so many other isms are considered shameful.Singlism: What It Is, Why It Matters, and How to Stop It (DoubleDoor Books) also includes contributions from a wide range of authors, experts, activists, cutting-edge thinkers, and ordinary people. They share their stories of standing up to singlism, help us understand singlism from a big-picture perspective, and inspire us all to live our lives fully and joyfully.

The contributors to Singlism are Lisa A., Ph.D., Rev. Mark Almlie, Gina Barreca, Ph.D., Steven Bereznai, Wendy Braitman, Rachel Buddeberg, Christina Campbell, Thomas F. Coleman, J.D., Crimson, Karen Foster, Page Gardner, Rajiv Garg, Jaclyn Geller, Ph.D., Nicky Grist, Jeanine, Rachel F. Moran, J.D., Wendy L. Morris, Ph.D., Yasmin Nair, Ph.D., Monica Pignotti, Ph.D., Psyngle, Rev. Ann Schranz, Singlutionary, Rachel Stone, E. Kay Trimberger, Ph.D., John Ullman, Helen W., Wendy Wasson, Ph.D., and Eleanore Wells.

Bella DePaulo Singlism book cover

Order Singlism In paperback, here.
From Amazon, here.
Kindle version here.

Single with Attitude: Not Your Typical Take on Health and Happiness, Love and Money, Marriage and Friendship

From the back cover: Bella DePaulo (PhD, Harvard) has been single all her life. Don’t expect her to get all apologetic about it. She loves living single – well, except for all of the singlism and matrimania. In these 89 essays, she provides her unique take on friends and family, health and happiness, love and money, marriage and maturity, pets and vets, religion and politics. She also explains why so many of the relevant stories in the media are just plain wrong. Many of these essays originally appeared in Living Single, Dr. DePaulo’s popular blog for Psychology Today. Other writings were first published in the Chronicle of Higher Education, Forbes.com, the Huffington Post, and the New York Times. Bella DePaulo’s previous book was the groundbreaking “SINGLED OUT: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After” (St. Martin’s Press). She has also published extensively on the psychology of lying.

Order Single with Attitude In paperback here.
From Amazon here.
Version in Kindle here.

Singles-Relevant Contributions to Other Books

See also Scholarly Papers, below.

“Single all the way”
By Bella DePaulo
In Single State of the Union: Single Women Speak Out on Life, Love, and the Pursuit of Happiness
Diane Mapes (Ed.)

“Living single: Lightening up those dark, dopey myths”
By Bella DePaulo
In The Dark Side of Close Relationships II
William R. Cupach and Brian H. Spitzberg (Eds.)

Foreward
By Bella DePaulo
I Didn’t Work This Hard Just to Get Married: Successful Black Women Speak Out
By Nika C. Beamon

“The myth of doomed kids” and “Bella DePaulo on writing,”
In The Bedford Reader (10th Ed.)
X. J. Kennedy, Dorothy M. Kennedy, and Jane E. Aaron (Eds.)

 


Media Appearances and Mentions (select list)

Atlantic magazine (cover story)

What, me marry?
All the single ladies
By Kate Bolick
November 2011
The story describes Bella DePaulo as “America’s foremost thinker and writer on the single experience.”

Atlantic magazine

The high price of being single in America
By Lisa Arnold and Christina Campbell
January 14, 2013

New York Times

Families
By Natalie Angier
November 25, 2013

New York Times

Singled Out (for the Single Supplement)
By Stephanie Rosenbloom
March 8, 2013

New York Times

A Confederacy of Bachelors
By Hilary Howard
August 3, 2012

New York Times

One singular sensation
By Gail Collins
December 4, 2008

New York Times

In a married world, singles struggle for attention
By Tara Parker-Pope
September 19, 2011

New York Times

The marrying kind: Born or made?
By Pamela Paul
January 14, 2011

Associated Press

Always single, happy that way
By Leanne Italie
May 26, 2010

New York Times

What are friends for? A longer life
By Tara Parker-Pope
April 21, 2009

New York Times

Rendell on Napolitano’s ‘no life’
By Sarah Wheaton
December 4, 2008

New York Times

A guide to embracing life as a single.
By Andrew Adam Newman
December 31, 2007

New York Times

Just say no to the dating industry.
By Kate Zernike
November 30, 2003

New York Times

Bob, meet Jane. And give me the details.
By Warren St. John
December 22, 2002

The Wall Street Journal

Janet Napolitano and the persistence of ‘singlism’
By Sue Shellenbarger
December 5, 2008

USA Today

Many singles looking for love, but not marriage
By Sharon Jayson
Febuary 1, 2012

USA Today

Free as a bird and loving it.
By Sharon Jayson
April 12, 2007

Washington Post Magazine (cover story)

The single life
By Ellen McCarthy
Febuary 12, 2012

Boston Magazine (cover story)

Single by choice
By Janelle Nanos
January, 2012

Washington Post

Developers, tenants move past awe of single living.
By Denise Kersten
February 1, 2003

New Jersey Star-Ledger

Protecting the rights of single people
Editorial page
Interview by Julie O’Connor
October 12, 2011

Columbia News Service

Alone no more, singles fight for their rights.
By Liz Kim
December 12, 2006

The McClatchy Company

The politics of parking an adult at the kids’ table
By Emilie Le Beau
November 18, 2006

Los Angeles Times

Unattached, thank you, and loving it.
By Martin Miller
September 2, 2004

Chicago Tribune

Marriage? Let me think about it.
By Alexia Elejalde-Ruiz
August 16, 2011
 
5 things we learned from Singled Out.
By Anne E. Stein
December 30, 2007

MSNBC

(Story on singles and longevity)
By Joan Raymond
August 18, 2011
Critique:
Watch out, singles! Once again, you are doomed to early grave by cheater technique

Cosmopolitan

Just one? A girl’s guide to going solo
By Jen Doll
July, 2013

Daily Beast

(online site associated with Newsweek)
Singled Out: Are unmarried people discriminated against?
By Maura Kelly
February 6, 2012

Newsweek

Single and loving it, even during the holidays
By Sarah Elizabeth Richards
December 23, 2009

Daily Beast/Newsweek

Where have all the babies gone?
By Joel Kotkin and Harry Siegel
February 19, 2013

Time

Are Gay Relationships Different?
By John Cloud
January 28, 2008

Time

Americans still love marriage. But why?
By John Cloud
February 19, 2007

The Economist

Singletons
By Sally Davies
August 25-31, 2012

The Nation

The Diana/Whore Complex
By Lakshmi Chaudhry
August 27, 2007

The Week

‘Singlism’: Do only married people have lives?
December 19, 2008
 
Work: A bias in office flexibility
June 26, 2013

Marie Claire

The single girl’s second shift
By Ayana Byrd
June 18, 2013

Psychology Today

Salud to singletons
By Carlin Flora
November/December 2008
 
Lone stars.
By Jillian Straus
May/June 2006

Prevention

Fifty shades of 50
By Lisa DePaulo
November, 2012

AARP Magazine

The secret lives of single women.
By Sarah Mahoney
May & June 2006

AARP Bulletin

Sharing home sweet home
By Sally Abrahms
June 2013

Realtor Magazine

Bella DePaulo: Singles really want…
By Wendy Cole
January / February 2013

Business Week

Unmarried America.(cover story)
By Michelle Conlin
October 20, 2003

U. S. News & World Report

50 ways to improve your life.
By Linda Kuhlman
December 27, 2004
 
Do childless employees get the shaft at work?
By Aaron Guerrero
July 17, 2013

Chronicle of Higher Education

Singular mistreatment: Unmarried professors are outsiders in the Ozzie and Harriet world of academe.
By Robin Wilson
April 23, 2004

Air America Radio

The Ron Reagan Show
December 5, 2008

CBC

The New Single
Josey Vogel, “Between You and Me”
July 22, 2008

The Pat Morrison Show. KPCC 89.3, NPR in Southern CA

“The decline of marriage.” Discussion with Bella DePaulo and Maggie Gallagher.
September 14, 2007

NPR Columbus, Ohio

Spinsters: 21st century renegades
June 12, 2013

NPR Tell Me More with Michel Martin

Is single life something to lament or celebrate?
February 15, 2012

NPR Justice Talking

September 11, 2006

NPR On Point

August 26, 2005
December 8, 2003

NPR Talk of the Nation

Single Women Take the Lead in America
January 18, 2007

NPR Boston

Seeking Singledom
July 29, 2011

“To the Point,” KCRW

Living alone in America
Judy Muller, guest host
August 30, 2013

CBS This Morning

Ways it pays to be married, how singles pay more
By Carmen Wong Ulrich
February 14, 2012

CBS Chicago

Are unmarrieds ‘Singled Out’ for discrimination?
By Mike Parker
December 4, 2008

CNN Saturday Night

September 16, 2006

CNN American Morning

Secret prejudice against single people
By John Roberts
December 5, 2008

Video Jug

Myths about singles (video)
More clips of Bella DePaulo discussing single life

NEW YORK TIMES Video

Opinion page
Conversation about discrimination against singles
July 29, 2008

 


Op-Ed Essays

New York Times, “A new American experiment,” February 13, 2012

 

New York Times, “Sex and the Single Voter,” June 18, 2004

 

Newsday, “Living Single, Seeing Double,” November 21, 2004

 

San Francisco Chronicle, “Single Americans Are Hardly Flying Solo,” January 14, 2007 (with Kay Trimberger)

 

Chronicle of Higher Education, “Make Room for Singles in Teaching and Research,” September 28, 2007 (with Rachel F. Moran and Kay Trimberger)

 

Forbes, “Yes, there is a single demographic,” December 22, 2008

 


Scholarly Papers

(Also see the section on Singles-relevant contributions to other books, above.)

DePaulo, B. M., & Morris, W. L. (2005). Singles in society and in science. Psychological Inquiry, 16, 57-83.

DePaulo, B. M., & Morris, W. L. (2005). Should singles and the scholars who study them make their mark or stay in their place? Psychological Inquiry, 16, 142-149.

Morris, W. L., Sinclair, S., & DePaulo, B. M. (2007). No shelter for singles: The perceived legitimacy of marital status discrimination. Group Processes and Intergroup Relations, 10, 457-470.

DePaulo, B. M., & Morris, W. L. (2006). The unrecognized stereotyping and discrimination against people who are single. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 15, 251-254. (Also available in the book Singlism: What It Is, Why It Matters, and How to Stop It.)

Morris, W. L., DePaulo, B. M., Hertel, J., & Taylor, L. C. (2008). Singlism – another problem that has no name: Prejudice, stereotypes, and discrimination against singles. In M. A. Morrison & T. G. Morrison (Eds.), The psychology of modern prejudice (pp. 165-194). New York: Nova Science Publishers.

Schutz, A., Hertel, J., DePaulo, B. M., Morris, W. L., & Stucke, T. S. (2007). She’s single, so what? How are singles perceived compared with people who are in romantic relationships? Zeitschrift fur Familienforschung (Journal of Family Research), 19, 139-158.

Morris, W. L., and DePaulo, B. M. (2009) Singlehood. In H. Reis & S. Sprecher (Eds.), Encyclopedia of Human Relationships. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage.

Casper, W. J., & DePaulo, B. (2012). A new layer to inclusion: Creating singles-friendly work environments. In N.P. Reilly, A. Gorman, & M. J. Sirgy (Eds.), Work and Quality of Life: Ethical Practices in Organizations (pp. 217-234). New York: Springer.

DePaulo, B. (2012). Single, no children: Who is your family? In A. Vangelisti (Ed.), Routledge Handbook of Family Communication (2nd ed., pp. 190-204). New York: Routledge.

DePaulo, B. (2011). Single people. In D. Dunn (Ed.), Oxford Bibliographies Online: Psychology.

DePaulo, B. (in press, 2013). Single in a society preoccupied with couples. In R. J. Coplan & J. Bowker (Eds.), A Handbook of Solitude: Psychological Perspectives on Social Isolation, Social Withdrawal, and Being Alone. Hoboken, NJ: Wiley-Blackwell.

DePaulo, B. (2013). The proliferation of life choices and the resistance that follows. Analyses of Social Issues and Public Policy, 13, 34-37. (http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1530-2415.2012.01299.x/abstract)

DePaulo, B. (in press). A Singles Studies perspective on mount marriage. Psychological Inquiry.

DePaulo, B. (in press, 2013). Bigger, broader meanings of love. In L. Bormans (Ed.), The World Book of Love. Tielt, Belgium: Lannoo.

DePaulo, B. (in press). Singles and mental health. In H. Friedman (Ed.), Encyclopedia of mental health (2nd ed.). Oxford, UK: Elsevier.

 


Workshop and Lectures

“Issues in working with singles.” One-day workshop presented at the North Carolina Psychological Association, October 7, 2006

I’ve talked about single life and my research on singles to many different groups, including medical and psychiatric professionals, women’s groups, women’s studies departments, newcomers groups, political groups, academics, marketing professionals, university administrators, singles advocacy groups, book clubs, and book festivals. See the EVENTS section of this website for details.

Singles Links and Resources

My Blogs about Singles and Single Life

Blog on this website
Living Single
Huffington Post
Single at Heart

Feeds from Enlightened Singles Blogs and Singles Resources

Single with Attitude

Information and/or Advocacy

Alternatives to Marriage Project (AtMP, now called Unmarried Equality)
Annotated Bibliography on Singles
Fact Sheet about Single Women (with E. Kay Trimberger)
Sloan Work and Family Research Network: Single Workers
Unmarried America / American Association for Single People
Workplace Fairness: Family Responsibilities Discrimination

Grant Support for Scholarly Research on Singles

The Anthony Marchionne Foundation Small Grants Program

Documentaries and Other Videos about Living Single

Seeking Happily Ever After
Bachelorette, 34
2 Hopeful Spinsters

All Sorts of Singles-Relevant Sites

All the Single Girlfriends
AMUUSE
Beyond Straight and Gay Marriage
Boldly Go Solo
Column One, viewpoint for Unmarried America
E. Kay Trimberger
Femme Fare
First Person Singular
Flying High Solo
Footloose Femails
In Jaynes World
It’s All About Balance
Jane Ganahl
Kara Herold Media
Karen Gail Lewis
Ms. Single Mama
My Single Space
Onely
Out of My Mind (Tricia Hoffman)
Party of Ones
Plan B Connections
Psych and the Single Girl
Quirkyalone
Quirky Economist
Rachel’s Musings
Reasons to be single (blog by Katie Beswick)
Scholars of Single Women Network
Single and Blogging It
Single and Thirty-Something
Single Edition
Single Independent Sistah
Single Minded Women
Single Mothers (Search Mothers)
Single Pregnancy
“Single Shot” column by Diane Mapes
Single Startups
Single Working Women’s Affiliate Network (SWWAN)
Singletude
Singlutionary
Singular Magazine
Singularly Happy
Sixty and Single in Seattle
Solo Friendly
Solo Lady
Solo Living Research Network
Solo Soul
Special K Treatment
Spinster Chronicles
Spinsterlicious Life
Suburban bachelor
Sweet Solitude
Swish
Table for One
Unique Retreats for Women
Unmarried Estate

Other Sites I Like

Advice Goddess
Andrea Learned
Anti 9-to-5 Guide
Author Buzz
Blogher
Campaign for the American Reader
Feministing
Good Bye Dress
In Bed with Books
Kate of Mind
Melissa Harris-Perry
Rachel Maddow
Social Psychology Network

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