- Singled Out book
- Singlism book
- Single with Attitude book
- Singles-relevant contributions to other books
- Media appearances and mentions
- Op-ed essays
- Scholarly papers
- Workshop and lectures
- Singles links and resources
- Share your stories about single life
- Singles-relevant readings and other events
Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After
In Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After(St. Martin’s Press), Dr. Bella DePaulo clearly and compellingly debunks the myths about people who are single, using scientific research, examples drawn from popular culture, and healthy amounts of humor. Immensely readable, Singled Out is also carefully and fairly argued. Singled Out is a spirited and provocative read for all people curious as to why singlism is practiced and how it has gone unrecognized and unchallenged for so long.
- Singled Out Highlights
- 10 Myths about Singles
- Singled Out Table of Contents
- Author Q & A
- Reviews and Discussions in the Washington Post, the Associated Press, Publishers Weekly, Feministing and several dozen others
Singlism: What It Is, Why It Matters, and How to Stop It
The widespread stereotyping and discrimination against people who are single has long gone unrecognized, unnamed, and unchallenged. Dr. Bella DePaulo calls it SINGLISM. In this collection, she defines singlism and shows where it is lurking in the workplace, the marketplace, the media, in religion, in pseudoscience, in laws and policies, and in our everyday lives. She provides some insight into why singlism persists at a time when so many other isms are considered shameful.Singlism: What It Is, Why It Matters, and How to Stop It (DoubleDoor Books) also includes contributions from a wide range of authors, experts, activists, cutting-edge thinkers, and ordinary people. They share their stories of standing up to singlism, help us understand singlism from a big-picture perspective, and inspire us all to live our lives fully and joyfully.
The contributors to Singlism are Lisa A., Ph.D., Rev. Mark Almlie, Gina Barreca, Ph.D., Steven Bereznai, Wendy Braitman, Rachel Buddeberg, Christina Campbell, Thomas F. Coleman, J.D., Crimson, Karen Foster, Page Gardner, Rajiv Garg, Jaclyn Geller, Ph.D., Nicky Grist, Jeanine, Rachel F. Moran, J.D., Wendy L. Morris, Ph.D., Yasmin Nair, Ph.D., Monica Pignotti, Ph.D., Psyngle, Rev. Ann Schranz, Singlutionary, Rachel Stone, E. Kay Trimberger, Ph.D., John Ullman, Helen W., Wendy Wasson, Ph.D., and Eleanore Wells.
Single with Attitude: Not Your Typical Take on Health and Happiness, Love and Money, Marriage and Friendship
From the back cover: Bella DePaulo (PhD, Harvard) has been single all her life. Don’t expect her to get all apologetic about it. She loves living single – well, except for all of the singlism and matrimania. In these 89 essays, she provides her unique take on friends and family, health and happiness, love and money, marriage and maturity, pets and vets, religion and politics. She also explains why so many of the relevant stories in the media are just plain wrong. Many of these essays originally appeared in Living Single, Dr. DePaulo’s popular blog for Psychology Today. Other writings were first published in the Chronicle of Higher Education, Forbes.com, the Huffington Post, and the New York Times. Bella DePaulo’s previous book was the groundbreaking “SINGLED OUT: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After” (St. Martin’s Press). She has also published extensively on the psychology of lying.
Singles-Relevant Contributions to Other Books
See also Scholarly Papers, below.
“Single all the way”
By Bella DePaulo
In Single State of the Union: Single Women Speak Out on Life, Love, and the Pursuit of Happiness
Diane Mapes (Ed.)
“Living single: Lightening up those dark, dopey myths”
By Bella DePaulo
In The Dark Side of Close Relationships II
William R. Cupach and Brian H. Spitzberg (Eds.)
Foreward
By Bella DePaulo
I Didn’t Work This Hard Just to Get Married: Successful Black Women Speak Out
By Nika C. Beamon
“The myth of doomed kids” and “Bella DePaulo on writing,”
In The Bedford Reader (10th Ed.)
X. J. Kennedy, Dorothy M. Kennedy, and Jane E. Aaron (Eds.)
Media Appearances and Mentions (select list)
Atlantic magazine (cover story)
What, me marry?
All the single ladies
By Kate Bolick
November 2011
The story describes Bella DePaulo as “America’s foremost thinker and writer on the single experience.”
New York Times
Singled Out (for the Single Supplement)
By Stephanie Rosenbloom
March 8, 2013
New York Times
A Confederacy of Bachelors
By Hilary Howard
August 3, 2012
New York Times
One singular sensation
By Gail Collins
December 4, 2008
New York Times
In a married world, singles struggle for attention
By Tara Parker-Pope
September 19, 2011
New York Times
The marrying kind: Born or made?
By Pamela Paul
January 14, 2011
Associated Press
Always single, happy that way
By Leanne Italie
May 26, 2010
New York Times
What are friends for? A longer life
By Tara Parker-Pope
April 21, 2009
New York Times
Rendell on Napolitano’s ‘no life’
By Sarah Wheaton
December 4, 2008
New York Times
A guide to embracing life as a single.
By Andrew Adam Newman
December 31, 2007
New York Times
Just say no to the dating industry.
By Kate Zernike
November 30, 2003
New York Times
Bob, meet Jane. And give me the details.
By Warren St. John
December 22, 2002
The Wall Street Journal
Janet Napolitano and the persistence of ‘singlism’
By Sue Shellenbarger
December 5, 2008
USA Today
Many singles looking for love, but not marriage
By Sharon Jayson
Febuary 1, 2012
USA Today
Free as a bird and loving it.
By Sharon Jayson
April 12, 2007
Washington Post Magazine (cover story)
The single life
By Ellen McCarthy
Febuary 12, 2012
Boston Magazine (cover story)
Single by choice
By Janelle Nanos
January, 2012
Washington Post
Developers, tenants move past awe of single living.
By Denise Kersten
February 1, 2003
New Jersey Star-Ledger
Protecting the rights of single people
Editorial page
Interview by Julie O’Connor
October 12, 2011
Columbia News Service
Alone no more, singles fight for their rights.
By Liz Kim
December 12, 2006
The McClatchy Company
The politics of parking an adult at the kids’ table
By Emilie Le Beau
November 18, 2006
Los Angeles Times
Unattached, thank you, and loving it.
By Martin Miller
September 2, 2004
Chicago Tribune
Marriage? Let me think about it.
By Alexia Elejalde-Ruiz
August 16, 2011
5 things we learned from Singled Out.
By Anne E. Stein
December 30, 2007
MSNBC
(Story on singles and longevity)
By Joan Raymond
August 18, 2011
Critique:
Watch out, singles! Once again, you are doomed to early grave by cheater technique
Daily Beast
(online site associated with Newsweek)
Singled Out: Are unmarried people discriminated against?
By Maura Kelly
February 6, 2012
Newsweek
Single and loving it, even during the holidays
By Sarah Elizabeth Richards
December 23, 2009
Daily Beast/Newsweek
Where have all the babies gone?
By Joel Kotkin and Harry Siegel
February 19, 2013
Time
Are Gay Relationships Different?
By John Cloud
January 28, 2008
Time
Americans still love marriage. But why?
By John Cloud
February 19, 2007
The Economist
Singletons
By Sally Davies
August 25-31, 2012
The Nation
The Diana/Whore Complex
By Lakshmi Chaudhry
August 27, 2007
The Week
‘Singlism’: Do only married people have lives?
December 19, 2008
Psychology Today
Salud to singletons
By Carlin Flora
November/December 2008
Psychology Today
Lone stars.
By Jillian Straus
May/June 2006
Prevention
Fifty shades of 50
By Lisa DePaulo
November, 2012
AARP Magazine
The secret lives of single women.
By Sarah Mahoney
May & June 2006
Realtor Magazine
Bella DePaulo: Singles really want…
By Wendy Cole
January / February 2013
Business Week
Unmarried America.(cover story)
By Michelle Conlin
October 20, 2003
U. S. News & World Report
50 ways to improve your life.
By Linda Kuhlman
December 27, 2004
Chronicle of Higher Education
Singular mistreatment: Unmarried professors are outsiders in the Ozzie and Harriet world of academe.
By Robin Wilson
April 23, 2004
Air America Radio
The Ron Reagan Show
December 5, 2008
CBC
The New Single
Josey Vogel, “Between You and Me”
July 22, 2008
The Pat Morrison Show. KPCC 89.3, NPR in Southern CA
“The decline of marriage.” Discussion with Bella DePaulo and Maggie Gallagher.
September 14, 2007
NPR Tell Me More with Michel Martin
Is single life something to lament or celebrate?
February 15, 2012
NPR Justice Talking
September 11, 2006
NPR On Point
August 26, 2005
December 8, 2003
NPR Talk of the Nation
Single Women Take the Lead in America
January 18, 2007
NPR Boston
Seeking Singledom
July 29, 2011
CBS This Morning
Ways it pays to be married, how singles pay more
By Carmen Wong Ulrich
February 14, 2012
CBS Chicago
Are unmarrieds ‘Singled Out’ for discrimination?
By Mike Parker
December 4, 2008
CNN Saturday Night
September 16, 2006
CNN American Morning
Secret prejudice against single people
By John Roberts
December 5, 2008
Video Jug
Myths about singles (video)
More clips of Bella DePaulo discussing single life
NEW YORK TIMES Video
Opinion page
Conversation about discrimination against singles
July 29, 2008
Op-Ed Essays
New York Times, “A new American experiment,” February 13, 2012
New York Times, “Sex and the Single Voter,” June 18, 2004
Newsday, “Living Single, Seeing Double,” November 21, 2004
San Francisco Chronicle, “Single Americans Are Hardly Flying Solo,” January 14, 2007 (with Kay Trimberger)
Chronicle of Higher Education, “Make Room for Singles in Teaching and Research,” September 28, 2007 (with Rachel F. Moran and Kay Trimberger)
Forbes, “Yes, there is a single demographic,” December 22, 2008
Scholarly Papers
(Also see the section on Singles-relevant contributions to other books, above.)
DePaulo, B. M., & Morris, W. L. (2005). Singles in society and in science. Psychological Inquiry, 16, 57-83.
DePaulo, B. M., & Morris, W. L. (2005). Should singles and the scholars who study them make their mark or stay in their place? Psychological Inquiry, 16, 142-149.
Morris, W. L., Sinclair, S., & DePaulo, B. M. (2007). No shelter for singles: The perceived legitimacy of marital status discrimination. Group Processes and Intergroup Relations, 10, 457-470.
DePaulo, B. M., & Morris, W. L. (2006). The unrecognized stereotyping and discrimination against people who are single. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 15, 251-254. (Also available in the book Singlism: What It Is, Why It Matters, and How to Stop It.)
Morris, W. L., DePaulo, B. M., Hertel, J., & Taylor, L. C. (2008). Singlism – another problem that has no name: Prejudice, stereotypes, and discrimination against singles. In M. A. Morrison & T. G. Morrison (Eds.), The psychology of modern prejudice (pp. 165-194). New York: Nova Science Publishers.
Schutz, A., Hertel, J., DePaulo, B. M., Morris, W. L., & Stucke, T. S. (2007). She’s single, so what? How are singles perceived compared with people who are in romantic relationships? Zeitschrift fur Familienforschung (Journal of Family Research), 19, 139-158.
Morris, W. L., and DePaulo, B. M. (2009) Singlehood. In H. Reis & S. Sprecher (Eds.), Encyclopedia of Human Relationships. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage.
Casper, W. J., & DePaulo, B. (2012). A new layer to inclusion: Creating singles-friendly work environments. In N.P. Reilly, A. Gorman, & M. J. Sirgy (Eds.), Work and Quality of Life: Ethical Practices in Organizations (pp. 217-234). New York: Springer.
DePaulo, B. (2012). Single, no children: Who is your family? In A. Vangelisti (Ed.), Routledge Handbook of Family Communication (2nd ed., pp. 190-204). New York: Routledge.
DePaulo, B. (2011). Single people. In D. Dunn (Ed.), Oxford Bibliographies Online: Psychology.
DePaulo, B. (in press, 2013). Single in a society preoccupied with couples. In R. J. Coplan & J. Bowker (Eds.), A Handbook of Solitude: Psychological Perspectives on Social Isolation, Social Withdrawal, and Being Alone. Hoboken, NJ: Wiley-Blackwell.
DePaulo, B. (in press). The proliferation of life choices and the resistance that follows. Analyses of Social Issues and Public Policy. (http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1530-2415.2012.01299.x/abstract)
DePaulo, B. (in press, 2013). Bigger, broader meanings of love. In L. Bormans (Ed.), The World Book of Love. Tielt, Belgium: Lannoo.
Workshop and Lectures
“Issues in working with singles.” One-day workshop presented at the North Carolina Psychological Association, October 7, 2006
I’ve talked about single life and my research on singles to many different groups, including medical and psychiatric professionals, women’s groups, women’s studies departments, newcomers groups, political groups, academics, marketing professionals, university administrators, singles advocacy groups, book clubs, and book festivals. See the EVENTS section of this website for details.
Singles Links and Resources
My Blogs about Singles and Single Life
Blog on this website
Living Single
Huffington Post
Single at Heart
Feeds from Enlightened Singles Blogs and Singles Resources
Information and/or Advocacy
Alternatives to Marriage Project (AtMP, now called Unmarried Equality)
Annotated Bibliography on Singles
Fact Sheet about Single Women (with E. Kay Trimberger)
Sloan Work and Family Research Network: Single Workers
Unmarried America / American Association for Single People
Workplace Fairness: Family Responsibilities Discrimination
Grant Support for Scholarly Research on Singles
The Anthony Marchionne Foundation Small Grants Program
Documentaries and Other Videos about Living Single
Seeking Happily Ever After
Bachelorette, 34
2 Hopeful Spinsters
All Sorts of Singles-Relevant Sites
All the Single Girlfriends
AMUUSE
Beyond Straight and Gay Marriage
Boldly Go Solo
Column One, viewpoint for Unmarried America
E. Kay Trimberger
Femme Fare
First Person Singular
Flying High Solo
Footloose Femails
In Jaynes World
It’s All About Balance
Jane Ganahl
Kara Herold Media
Karen Gail Lewis
Ms. Single Mama
My Single Space
Onely
Out of My Mind (Tricia Hoffman)
Party of Ones
Plan B Connections
Psych and the Single Girl
Quirkyalone
Quirky Economist
Rachel’s Musings
Scholars of Single Women Network
Single and Blogging It
Single and Thirty-Something
Single Edition
Single Independent Sistah
Single Minded Women
Single Mothers (Search Mothers)
Single Pregnancy
“Single Shot” column by Diane Mapes
Single Startups
Single Working Women’s Affiliate Network (SWWAN)
Singletude
Singlutionary
Singular Magazine
Singularly Happy
Sixty and Single in Seattle
Solo Friendly
Solo Lady
Solo Living Research Network
Solo Soul
Special K Treatment
Spinster Chronicles
Spinsterlicious Life
Sweet Solitude
Swish
Table for One
Unique Retreats for Women
Unmarried Estate
Other Sites I Like
Advice Goddess
Andrea Learned
Anti 9-to-5 Guide
Author Buzz
Blogher
Campaign for the American Reader
Feministing
Good Bye Dress
In Bed with Books
Kate of Mind
Melissa Harris-Perry
Rachel Maddow
Social Psychology Network
Share Your Stories About Single Life
Singles-Relevant Readings and Other Events
