Buy “How We Live Now” And I’ll Send You a Free Copy of One of My Other Books

COVER, How We Live Now


If you buy a copy of How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century (a new one, not one you already have), I’ll send you a free copy of one of my other books. Shipping is also free if your shipping address is within the continental U.S. If it is not, I’m happy to pay the first $3.22 (what it will cost me to ship to most US addresses) if you will pay the rest.


This Review of Singled Out, by Joe Walker, is What I Always Wished Someone Would Write

final Singled Out TP cover

[Bella’s intro: Just weeks before my next book, How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century, was about to launch, I received a review of my first non-academic book, Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After, from Joe Walker, someone I don’t know but now greatly admire! I guess you could call that a biased opinion. Singled Out was first published in hardcover in 2006. Now, nine years later, here is the review I always wished someone would write. Joe Walker sent it to me in the form of a letter. I asked if I could publish it here and he agreed. Thanks, Joe!]


Part 2: Getting Married Makes You Happier? Again, No

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[This post was originally published at Psychology Today. I just discovered that it disappeared! I have no idea why, but I thought I’d just republish it at my own site where I have control over what appears and disappears.]

In my previous post, I explained why no study has ever shown definitively that getting married causes people to become happier – and no study ever will. Here, I will critique the research (an unpublished working paper by Grover and Helliwell) that set off the latest round of matrimaniacal claims that we single people would be happier if only we would get married. The claims the authors are making are unapologetically causal: They think their research shows that getting married causes people to become happier. It doesn’t. The very premise of their claim (that married people are happier, and we just need to figure out if marriage is causing married people’s greater happiness) is undermined by some of their own findings – not that you would have read much about those results in any of the many media stories gleefully declaring a win for Team Marriage.