All Things Single (and More)

Unconventional wisdom about single life, friendship,
and the science of deception

Tasty Myth-Busting from the New “Going Solo” Book

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Solo dwellers, we have our book! Eric Klinenberg’s book, Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone, will be published tomorrow. My advanced copy is already dog-eared. At Living Single, I explained why I think this book will become a social science classic, read by students, scholars, and smart readers everywhere for years to come. At my Single at Heart blog, I shared 12 of the surprising facts you can learn about living alone from Going Solo.

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A Balanced Woman: Guest Post by Laura Backes

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[Bella’s intro: I do not know Laura Backes, but when she sent me this essay, I liked it and thought some “All Things Single (and More)” readers would appreciate it as well.  For future reference, though, I will reiterate the point I have often made that I especially welcome posts that speak both to single women and single men.

I do like this topic, and Laura Backes has inspired me to reprint my own take on “having it all” – an excerpt from Singled Out. I’ll post that sometime soon. (Here it is. I posted it at my "Single at Heart" blog at PsychCentral.) I hope others will also share what “having it all” or a sense of balance means to them.]

A Balanced Woman

By Laura Backes

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How to Become a Guest Blogger

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I love featuring voices other than mine here at “All Things Single (and More).” Although I read widely about single life, think critically, study the academic journals, and do my own original research, my perspective is limited by my own life experiences. So, even though I always appreciate hearing from people who share my point of view, I also greatly value those whose single lives have been very different.

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Marry No One — The Case for Being Happy Single: Guest Post by Maya Bernadett

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[Bella’s intro: In my last post, I gave a name to the series that has actually been ongoing for some time: Perspectives on Single Life. The first entry posted specifically under that name is from Maya Bernadett. She takes on the pressure to just settle, a topic that, unfortunately, continues to be timely. There are a number of lines from this essay that I especially appreciate, but I think my favorite is the very last one. No cheating – don’t skip ahead to the end! Thanks, Maya, for sharing your essay with the readers of “All Things Single (and More).”]

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Perspectives on Single Life

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Recently, there has been an increase in the number of single people sending me essays about single life. I welcome that. I love hearing from other singles, and I like sharing different points of view with all of you – even if (especially if?) those perspectives are not entirely the same as my own. I expect these guests posts to become a semi-regular feature here at “All Things Single (and More).” I’m going to call the series “Perspectives on Single Life.” Starting with the next guest post (which will probably appear tomorrow), you will see “Perspectives on Single Life” as one of the categories in the right-hand column of this blog page. Eventually, I will try to add that tag to previous guest posts as well, so you can see all of the others at a glance.

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Holiday Pity Parties for Single People – Not My Style!

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Over at the Huffington Post, a post titled Holiday Advice for the Single Woman: 8 Reasons to Enjoy It, is getting teased this way:

“Instead of feeling down on yourself the next time Grandma asks you when you are going to meet a nice boy and give her grandkids, focus on why it’s sweet to be single over the holidays.”

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The Strange Case of the Out-of-Character Blog Post

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The latest post over at Living Single was a guest post by Elliott Lewis titled “Undateable.” That one word could raise eyebrows. I like to say that all of my blogs are about all aspects of single life except dating and becoming unsingle. I have stood by that standard all this time because, well, there’s enough about that other stuff everywhere else, and I’m just not interested in it. It is not my niche. Mostly, I write for and about people who want to live their single lives fully.

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Flying Solo Near 60: Guest Post by Jacqueline Marshall

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Sitting in my favorite chair, sipping a cup of dark roast, I realized my 59th birthday is three months away. After a moment of terror, I fell into thinking about my life so far and where 58 years has “brought” me: I am approaching 60, was laid-off 6 months ago, I’m unattached, and starting my fifth career. The only constant in my life I could come up with, the one thread tying the patchwork pieces together, is depression.

“Wow,” I said to my cats, “the pinnacle of almost six decades of living! I never could have imagined.” Then, I did what anyone in this situation would do, I laughed. I don’t know what else to do with life sometimes. Besides, though my pinnacle of achievement is not as stupendous as I thought it would be by now, I’m happy (when I’m not depressed).

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