Once upon a time, my primary professional interest was in the psychology of deceiving and detecting deceit. I wrote about that in “My previous life as a deception researcher.” Now my passion is the study (and practice!) of single life. But I continue to get questions about deception. So I have compiled here many of my blog posts about lying and detecting lies. If you are interested in my books about deception, you can find summaries and links here.
I. First, Some Truths about Lies
6 everlasting truths about deception
Telling lies: Fact, fiction, and nonsense, Guest post by Professor Maria Hartwig (This is a terrific critique of Paul Ekman’s claims)
II. Lying and Becoming a Liar
How ordinary people become extraordinary liars
Big-time liars: Top 7 lies they tell themselves
What’s with all these big time liars?
Are truth-tellers more consistent over time than liars?
Do relationships need lies to survive?
Romantic relationships are hotbeds for serious lies
Americans’ cheating hearts: Results from decades of research
Keeping marriage alive with affairs, asexuality, polyamory, and living apart
What if Monica Lewinski had been married?
Maureen Dowd quotes me, but not about singles
Dexter the amiable serial killer
The power and peril of hurt feelings
Accused of doing something awful? Here’s how to convince others of your innocence
Profiles of liars: How men and women differ
III. Figuring Out When You Are Getting Duped
What you really need to know about spotting liars
Looks can kill – your better judgment
Why are we so bad at detecting lies?
How body language lets us down
Unconscous, gut-level lie detection?
Airport screening post-9/11 – what happens before you even get to any of the machines
In airport security lines, you are being observed
If you watch ‘Lie to Me,’ will you be more successful at detecting lies?
Manti Te’o and the revenge of the romantic fantasy
The most underappreciated sign of intimacy — and its demise
Who can’t keep their stories straight: A cue to deception?
Getting suckered by a killer
Can a computer tell when you are lying?
Why political spouses — and all spouses — know less than we do
Spotting a Cheater: How Long Do You Have to Know a Person Before You Can Do It Accurately?
Friends and lovers: Is there a ‘knew it all along’ effect?
What friends know that others don’t