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Most recent book on single life:

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Amazon here.

E-book here.

Debunking Myths about Marriage

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In this cover story of Atlantic magazine,
Bella DePaulo is described as
“America’s foremost thinker and writer on the single experience.”


In Going Solo,
Bella DePaulo is described as
“the minister of truth for the solo nation..”

Coming soon:
Bella DePaulo’s online courses at Udemy


All of Bella DePaulo’s books can be found here. Translations of her books into other languages are here.


Click here to read my “Living
Single” blog at Psychology Today.

Click here to read my

“Single at Heart” blog at PsychCentral.


Click here for links to my monthly column at Unmarried Equality



Singled Out

Singled Out on Kindle

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Ever since I wrote the book Singled Out, I have been debunking myths about the supposed benefits of getting married. Every time a new study came out and got trumpeted by the media, I did what few reporters seemed to have done – I actually read the original research report. You can see collections of critiques from my blogs here:

On getting married and (not) getting happier
On getting married and (not) getting healthier
No, getting married does not mean that you will live longer
No, if you raise your kids as a single parent, your kids are not doomed
No, single people are not isolated and self-centered

See links to other topics here

The book Marriage vs. Single Life includes several important myth-debunking chapters plus 39 shorter critiques and discussions.

Please share your experiences and opinions in these two surveys:

    1. Survey: New Ways of Living

People are living in lots of new ways. How about you? If you live some way other than in a household with married parents and kids (and no one else) under the same roof, I’d love to hear from you. The first question asks you to describe your living arrangement and is the only required question. Answer as many of the others as you wish. Click here to take survey

    1. Survey: Are You Single at Heart?

I am trying to understand people who are – and are not – single at heart, and what makes them different. If you are interested, please participate regardless of whether you think you might be single at heart. There are 15 quick questions (multiple choice), then 3 opportunities to answer questions in your own words, then some background questions (so I can see how I’m doing on reaching a diverse sample). Click here to take survey


Welcome to my website. Click on a door (above) and it will open and take you to the relevant section. Also notice the links to other pages (including the Contact page) at the top.

Here’s a quick preview and a note about the meaning of each door:

door: See that laundry at the top of the picture? It’s clean. In this section, you will find a conventional overview of who I am. If I’m ever tempted to post dirty laundry, it will be in the “It’s Personal” section of the BLOG page of this website.

door: Red to me means passionate. That describes my feelings as I research and write about people who are single and their place in society. In this section are overviews of my BOOKS on singles, highlights of my singles work as it appears in the media, and notes about my other writings such as my op-ed pieces, my contributions to anthologies, and my academic publications. To read my very latest thoughts about singles and single life, check out the “Singles” section of the BLOG page of this website.

door: I published my first academic paper on deception, “Telling lies,” in 1979. That’s why the deception door is old and creaky. It still has its charm, though, don’t you think? In this section, you can read about my deception BOOKS, my op-ed writing and popular writings (for example, about deception in the TV shows Dexter and House), and my academic publications. My lectures, workshops, and media appearances are also noted here.

door: There is a revolution afoot in the U.S. and beyond, but you may not have heard much about it. It is a grassroots movement in which people are creating all sorts of new ways to live. They are finding their places, their spaces, and their people. They are creating the optimal mix of time alone and time together, of sociability and solitude, for their particular needs and preferences at their particular stage of life. This is my new book project. I hope that my book, and writings by other people, will be part of a new genre I am calling “lifespace literature.” This is all rather new. That’s why the door does not lead into a well-defined room. Walk through it and who knows what you will find!

door: From the shadow (on the right) into the sunshine; that’s one way to think about a blog. Plus, I just like the picture. The blog includes sections on singles, deception, friendship, personal observations (“It’s Personal” section) and other miscellaneous topics (“Off-topic” section).

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